A Wedding & A Funeral

My family and I squeezed into a packed church this past Saturday afternoon to celebrate with a crowd of people as together we witnessed the son of a dear friend embark on a new life with his brand-new bride. In stark contrast, only two hours later, we filed into a second church with a different group of people to mourn the passing of another precious friend from this life into the arms of Jesus. The juxtaposition of the two events was emotionally jarring…the celebration of a joined life beginning … followed by the tangible realization that another life had ended. At first, they seemed diametrically opposed to each other, but the more I considered it, the more I decided that they weren’t as contrasting as I initially thought.

You know, it’s natural to embrace and celebrate the milestones that remind us of life’s joys. Birthdays, weddings, and other new beginnings lend spice and variety to our years, but no matter how loudly or how often we celebrate, there’s always an unwelcome specter lurking in the shadows, threatening to tighten its icy fingers around every one of us. And nothing brings the certainty of death into the open more keenly than the passing of someone close to you… especially when that person is in what’s usually considered to be the prime of life.

We are not in Eden any more.







They gnaw and tear at us at every turn.  We cannot escape their brutal reign in this world.

Perhaps this cold reality is one of the reasons that Jesus chose one of the most beautiful celebrations in all of life to describe His relationship with His followers. He portrayed us (His church) as the beautifully adorned bride waiting expectantly for her beloved bridegroom. (Rev. 19:6-9; 21:20) In an unflawed love story, this perfect Groom expresses selfless love for His bride by giving Himself so that she might live. She responds joyfully by yielding herself in devoted love to Him.

It frames a magnificent picture of the Gospel and the hope that you and I have as believers. But to be clear, this kind of hope isn’t the same as the fleeting feelings of euphoria that usually accompany a positive belief that things will just “turn out” the way we desire (because they often don’t). Instead, this assurance is based on a solid and immovable promise of God, who has given us “new birth” through “the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.” (1 Peter 1:3). We can hold to this promise as reliable because it’s centered on the person of Jesus Christ and not wishful human thinking, and as such, this “living hope” can carry us through the deepest darkest moments and offers us inextinguishable light, even while standing in the disorienting mist of shadow of death.

It’s natural that we grieve over the loss and destruction that exists in our world. We weep for the way things should be, but aren’t. But in the midst of sadness, our faith carries us along toward the day of satisfaction when all things will be made right.

So, for now, we rest in the confidant pledge that God “has rescued from the dominion of darkness and brought into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sin.” (Col. 1:13-14) Our faith in His grace has established us into a new relationship as “heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ.” (Rom 8:17)

Yes, it’s OK to mourn deeply for the separation that death brings, but even as the ache lingers, make it a point to pause and listen. You just might hear the faint chime of wedding bells in the distance, as the angel of the Lord beckons us toward Christ with the certain promise that … Blessed are those who are invited to the wedding supper of the Lamb!” (Rev. 19:9)


9 thoughts on “A Wedding & A Funeral

  1. Patricia says:

    Such a deep and truthful point. There is a season for everything. In times of pain, I cling to Romans 8:28 – and hold onto my faith. I’m learning to be grateful for the times of sorrow and challenge as those are the times when I grow the most. I’m grateful that God has given me this insight. Please accept my condolences on your loss and may you and yours receive comfort, strength and His joy, eventually.

  2. Mel Thompson says:

    Thank you, Karen, for your thoughtful insights and revelation of two events that many of us attend because of, we just should by going through the expected emotions of happiness and sadness. Sometimes both at the same time. As I get older, it seems I’m attending more funerals than weddings anymore.
    I love rereading in the OT the Song Of Solomon when it comes to Christ Jesus’ return for His bride, the church and His relationship with His bride: “[I can feel] his left hand under my head and his right hand embraces me!” – Do I have a constant sense of my Shepherd’s presence, regardless of my surroundings?

    LOVE IT, Karen.

  3. Laura Thomas says:

    Wow, that must have been an emotional roller coaster for you! Thanks for sharing your thoughts—I especially love the hope found in your last paragraph! Stopping by from #TuneInThursday 🙂

  4. Mary Hill says:

    Life can be so double-edged, tinged with joy and sadness on the same day. I am sorry for your loss, but found hope in the story of a new couple finding love in marriage. Thanks for sharing on the LMMLinkup today.

  5. Faith Filled Feathers says:

    Hi, I’m visiting from the Unite link up at #18 and 19. Your post was so thought provoking. I really liked your writing style. I hope to read more from you soon 🙂

  6. Tea With Jennifer says:

    Great post! How we look forward to that future wedding feast!

    You’re most welcome to drop by for a cuppa & time of reflection together…
    You may enjoy my post “Eternity” be sure to read the “Excerpt”!

  7. Jennifer Allong Bratt says:

    Beautiful post, so well put! Also a reminder that death is part of life, both sides of the same coin. As believers, as soon as our eyes close in death, they open to behold heaven and see all the beauty that God has prepared for us.


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